When it comes to understanding love sex and intimacy, we are all experts, right? We have all secured our place in the dating or marriage game and feel like we’ve overcome the obstacles along the way.
Wait – No? You have Questions? Great, so do I. And I have a great resource for all of our questions.
25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery and Moody Publishers.
25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love Sex and Intimacy
In her book, Dr. Slattery handles the following difficult topics:
- Can I be single and sexual
- Handling different sexual appetites in marriage
- How to be adventurous in bed while still being godly
- How to get past shames of the past
- Mommy porn
- Can I be godly and gay
- How to rebuild trust after a betrayal
- How do I know he’s the one.
If you are not familiar with Dr. Juli Slattery, let me introduce her to you. She is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, an international nonprofit designed to minister to women on topics of intimacy. She served as the co-host of the Focus on the Family broadcast and is the host of Java with Juli, a broadcast and podcast in affiliation with Moody Radio.
I was given this book by Moody Publishers to review and all the opinions are my own. I love this book and the information it offers. I am highly recommend it to anyone who has struggled in relationships in the past and now bring those sins into the present, women who are single and struggling with sexual purity and the plans God has for them, and for women (married and single) who have questions about love, sex and intimacy.
I think this just about covers all of us,
ladies, doesn’t it?
In one of my favorite chapters, Chapter 11 – How Do I Get Past My Shame, Dr. Slattery talks about the difference between guilt and shame. I believe this will be a transformational chapter for many women as they begin to understand this difference and heal from their past.
Dr. Slattery states, “Feelings of guilt are healthy when they reflect our true state of guilt, but we sometimes feel ‘false guilt’ – guilty about things we have no responsibility for. While guilt is rooted in what we have done, shame is the condemnation of who we are. True guilt can lead to repentance and restoration, but shame separates us from knowing the love of Christ.”
My other favorite chapter, Chapter 25 – Why Wouldn’t God Want Me To Be Happy, Dr. Slattery talks about modern Christian men and women who have somehow come to the conclusion that a loving God would want them to be happy. That if they have found someone to love, biblical scripture and God’s commands may not include them. This thinking opens the door to any number of sins.
I remember using this same line of thinking in my twenties. God is good; He would want me to be happy. I fell on my knees countless times praying for things I felt confident God would and should bless in the name of love, all while discounting God’s Word and His commands.
Culture today is insistent on focusing on God’s love. A. W. Tozer said, “When large numbers of adherents in the Christian churches come to believe that God is different from what He actually is, that concept becomes heresy of the most insidious and deadly kind.”
Dr. Slattery explains in Chapter 25 that it is true, God is Love, but God’s love is never more than His Holiness, His Justice, His Rightousness.
I agree with this statement 100%. We must always look at and study God while remembering His Holiness. His Sovereignty. His Righteousness, and yes, His perfect Love, but never apart from His perfect Justice. It is all of these – together – that bring us into a relationship with Him and mold us into the image of Christ.
If we are never led through trials; never allowed to suffer – we are never emptied out of ourselves so that we turn to Him. It is in these moments when we truly see His mercy and grace. We see the priceless gift He offers.
Why do I love this book so much? Dr. Juli Slattery’s message in 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love Sex and Intimacy is a beautiful guide to God’s call for a personal relationship with us. It is why I continue to write here at Learn. Grow. Love. Thrive.
God’s plan for ‘happiness’ in our life may look very different than our plan for happiness in our life. We must learn to trust Him if we are to achieve this. We must turn over our life to Him. If we are struggling in our life, in our marriage, if our prayers are not being answered or if God seems far away – seek Him out. Live a God-centered Life. Live in community with Him. Make Him part of your world, not just part of your Sunday.
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What’s your biggest question in dealing with love sex and intimacy?
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